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Societal norms have always been a bit of a puzzle to me. I’ve never been one to follow the conventional path simply because it’s expected. Sure, opting for a less traditional route has made things more challenging at times, but I don’t regret it. In fact, I’m genuinely happy with where I am now, and I often wonder if an “easier” path would have led me here.

For instance, if I had gone straight to college after high school, I might be in a career that doesn’t truly inspire me. At 18, I had no clue what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, and that uncertainty lingered through my 20s and even into my 30s. During my late 30s, while pursuing a master’s program, I changed my mind about my career path twice before finally starting my dream job at 39.

Similarly, I was 41 when I started a family (after marrying at 25). I can’t imagine life without my two boys. Had I chosen to start a family right after getting married, they wouldn’t even exist yet. Our journey to becoming a family of four happened precisely when and how it was meant to. We planned to start a family after I finished school, and now, with a career I love and the flexibility it provides, I can give my kids the best experiences possible. I wouldn’t have been able to do that 15 years ago; it would have been a struggle. It might have been perfect in its own way, but it wouldn’t have been our story, and I cherish our unique path.

So here’s my advice: if buying a house doesn’t appeal to you, keep renting. If you’re not ready to dive into college or grad school, take a gap year. If you’re unsure about your career path, explore different options. If you don’t want to have kids, don’t feel pressured to. And if you do want to start a family, do it on your own timeline. If you’re not ready for marriage, don’t rush into it.

Don’t let societal pressures dictate your life. Create your own timeline and follow the path that feels right for you.

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